Counseling Resources

Redeemer Counseling Center
Offers individual counseling AND group counseling here in NYC for men dealing with online pornography and/or sexual addiction.  They have a sliding scale fee based on income, so it can be affordable.

Bethesda Workshops
A 4-day intensive in Nashville, TN addressing sexual addiction from both a clinical and Biblical approach. There are sessions for men & for couples:

Book Resources

Closing the Window book cover

Closing the Window: Steps to Living Porn Free by Tim Chester

Wired For Intimacy book cover

Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers

Pure Desire by Ted Roberts book cover

Pure Desire: How One Man’s Triumph Can Help Others Break Free From Sexual Temptation by Ted Roberts

Out of the Shadows book cover

Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, PhD.

In the Shadows of the Net book cover

In the Shadows of the Net: Breaking Free of Compulsive Online Sexual Behavior by Patrick Carnes, PhD. and David L. Delmonico, PhD

Every Man's Battle book cover

Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Battle at a Time by Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey




10 Scriptures to get you started in Building Your Spiritual Defenses Against Sexual Temptation

  1. No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. (1 Corinthians 10:13 NIV)
  2. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:4, 5 NIV)
  3. I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. (Job 31:1 NIV)
  4. How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word. (Psalm 119:9 NIV)
  5. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. (Psalm 119:11 NIV)
  6. You, however, are not in the realm of the flesh but are in the realm of the Spirit, if indeed the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, they do not belong to Christ. (Romans 8:9 NIV)
  7. when you heard about Christ and were taught in him in accordance with the truth that is in Jesus. You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its deceitful desires; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:21, 22, 24 NIV)
  8. But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. (Ephesians 5:3 NIV)
  9. So I say, walk by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are in conflict with each other, so that you are not to do whatever you want. (Galatians 5:16, 17 NIV)
  10. For the grace of God has appeared that offers salvation to all people. It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, (Titus 2:11-12 NIV)


Regular Fasting and Prayer

Having a weekly fasting and prayer routine is another important ingredient in breaking the bondage of sexual addiction (in conjunction with these other resources.)


Accountability Group

Accountability is another necessary ingredient in the breaking free from sexual addiction.  You cannot do it alone!  Having other men in your life for regular check-ins, prayer, confession, and encouragement are critical to your success.